Thanks Ken, it's not that tight, I was on my back & using left hand. I've got a torque wrench, but a big one I use for wheel lugs, so not sure how accurate it'd be at the low end.
I figure there should be some thread sealant (not perm) that would fill the gaps & resist oil.
I'd rather a drip than split the zf case. Yikes!
Problem is now I gotta chg the oil again - not hard - but - maybe I'll stick the castrol in & see if I like it.