My dilemma. Should I buy rims in pairs?

[87blackroxi]

Well I just received my second half of my christmas bonus and I have been eyeballing these for a while:
http://forums.corvetteforum.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=47580297
OK, here's the dilemma. My lady is currently in her internship for teaching. And for those of you who know, internship= you work for free. So I am floating all the bills for the next 4 months, which I can handle. It will be a little tight at times but I calculated everything and it will work.
So I have the money to buy the set of rims and I ran it by my lady and man I got reamed! :ugh I was told I needed to save that money!!!
So to try to appease her I asked if she was alright with me buying 2 rims now and 2 next month. She really didn't like that idea either.
Here's my plan: I want to buy 2 rims this month and store them at a friend's. Then next month buy the other pair. And then put them on the car in the beginning of March. She'll see that the bills weren't a problem and we will only have 2 months left of single income.

The real Dilemma: If I buy rims in pairs do I run a risk of not matching up the set? Are there huge differences in batches?
Also the moral dilemma. I would be kind of going behind her back. Although she does know me pretty well, If I know her at all, she thinks I already have the rims paid for and hidden.
What do you think?
I am more concerned with the rims not matching or having differences.

 

[Jeroenvgfn]

Although she does know me pretty well, If I know her at all, she thinks I already have the rims paid for and hidden.

Are your wife and mine sisters ???


just do it , you only live once

 

[JEFNLSA]

Although I haven't always been this way w/ my car much to Lisa's chagrin, as long as they are still available and the price is the same I would wait and buy the set in March. It would be different if you were putting them on the car right away but since you are waiting to install regardless then what's the big deal. She will appreciate you holding off and that will bode well for you in the "long-term" - which is your ultimate goal for "this relationship".

btw...those rims do look sweet!!!

 

[vetteboy86]

Kind of in the same situation you are in, I really cant offer any good advice. Neither one of you is right, she shouldn't tell you not to get them, but on the other hand, you do need to save money and spending money on rims right now isn't fair to her either. I guess I would wait, and then run it by her when the internship is over. I guess these relationships are all about compromise.

On a side note, I think for a wedding present my woman is planning on finding me a hardtop for my vert....how cool.

Craig

 

[Aurora40]

why not just sock away the money you'd use to buy the first two? Then if anything unexpected happens, you aren't left holding two rims and needing the money instead. What do you gain by buying two of them sooner?

 

[gmjunkie]

why not just sock away the money you'd use to buy the first two? Then if anything unexpected happens, you aren't left holding two rims and needing the money instead. What do you gain by buying two of them sooner?

That would be My Gess!! I don't know about Your's, But Mine Can Be as Mean as a Banty Hen!!! Good Luck!! junk!!

 

[AdvancedAutoCC]

Best to wait and see if you'll need the money... I doubt these wheels are going anywhere. Bills come first (need a roof over your head, food to eat, etc.), and toys come last.

Not fun, but it sure beats having to sell them to raise quick cash in the event of an emergency you could have headed off.

 

[87blackroxi]

AAAAAAHhhhhhhh,
It's killing me to know that I could have these on my car next week!
I hate looking at my car with a beautiful new paint job on it and 18 year old ragged out rims!!!!
However,
Y'all bring up some good points. I guess I am letting the car get the best of me And it wouldn't make too much sense to buy them in pairs.
I think part of it is that she doesn't know I have the engagement ring paid for and she thinks I am waisting money on the car over her! Spending money on the car is usually a sore subject.
But I think I can wait a little longer. Maybe after I propose in February to her she will loosen up and give the ok!

 

[gmjunkie]

But I think I can wait a little longer. Maybe after I propose in February to her she will loosen up and give the ok!

I thought you were going to Take Care of that "Drivile" Chirstmas!!!otfl You ain't try'n to Wuossssss out are ya Shane?? junk!!

 

[87blackroxi]

I thought you were going to Take Care of that "Drivile" Chirstmas!!!otfl You ain't try'n to Wuossssss out are ya Shane?? junk!!

Not quite stalling or wussin' out. She found out what I was up to so it wasn't going to be a surprise. I just decided not to make the drive and wait for a time when she least expected it.
I might doit late February. We'll see
I bet the sooner i ask her, the sooner I'll be getting those rims!:L

 

[vette-dude]

Hold it! Just a second! I'm trying to get my collar turned around so I can counsel you. Okay--Go ahead--

(Scene vette-dude enters confessional!!)

87blackroxi begins "Forgive me Father for I have --- yada, yada, yada" --fade to black!!



Okay, the whole gotta have it now thing is a matter of priorities. The younger generation seems to believe that all material things in life should be theirs at the very minute they want them. It isn't just you but the generation as a whole. Us older farts didn't get the things we wanted instantly as we were taught there are priorities in life such as food, shelter, and saving till you can afford the wanted extra items. In addition, if you really are in love with this woman then you will respect what she said and will wait until you are in the position that you have the disposable income to buy the rims. The car will wait, believe it or not and the rims will still be available for you to buy down the road. Starting out a relationship with little behind the back sneaks is not advisable in any situation, marriage or otherwise. Be cool and your time will come. Do not start out a marriage with a lie, it just won't last!! I hope you make the right choice my son.

Randy

PS: Hope I didn't offend anybody!!

 

[87blackroxi]

Hold it! Just a second! I'm trying to get my collar turned around so I can counsel you. Okay--Go ahead--

(Scene vette-dude enters confessional!!)

87blackroxi begins "Forgive me Father for I have --- yada, yada, yada" --fade to black!!



Okay, the whole gotta have it now thing is a matter of priorities. The younger generation seems to believe that all material things in life should be theirs at the very minute they want them. It isn't just you but the generation as a whole. Us older farts didn't get the things we wanted instantly as we were taught there are priorities in life such as food, shelter, and saving till you can afford the wanted extra items. In addition, if you really are in love with this woman then you will respect what she said and will wait until you are in the position that you have the disposable income to buy the rims. The car will wait, believe it or not and the rims will still be available for you to buy down the road. Starting out a relationship with little behind the back sneaks is not advisable in any situation, marriage or otherwise. Be cool and your time will come. Do not start out a marriage with a lie, it just won't last!! I hope you make the right choice my son.

Randy

PS: Hope I didn't offend anybody!!

No offense taken. But I think you missed some of the idea. I have the money already to buy the rims and some extra that would sit in savings. She is just afraid I won't be able to make the bills. I have a pretty good salary(for Florida) and am up for my annual raise next week. So financially I am sound. I already calculated monthly expenses and everything is covered. This not factoring that I am up for a raise too. I understand the generation gap differences, but I have wanted to get rims since last may and it's always something that comes up with her that prevents me from getting them. I think her issue is more that she thinks I am putting money into the car over getting her her ring. But I already have the ring.
Like I said earlier, " I think the sooner she gets her ring, the sooner I get my rims"

 

[gmjunkie]

I think her issue is more that she thinks I am putting money into the car over getting her her ring. But I already have the ring.
Like I said earlier, " I think the sooner she gets her ring, the sooner I get my rims"

Here's a Plan!! Buy the Wheel's Put them on the Car, And While she is Bust'n Your Chop's, Give her the Ring!! My Wife has a ring, It's in my nose with a long Chane!!
She Like's to Pull it Too!!!! otfl junk!!

 

[87blackroxi]

Here's a Plan!! Buy the Wheel's Put them on the Car, And While she is Bust'n Your Chop's, Give her the Ring!! My Wife has a ring, It's in my nose with a long Chane!!
She Like's to Pull it Too!!!! otfl junk!!

Only the Junk! :L

 

[vetteboy86]

I dont know what it is, but this whole spending time on the car versus with her thing sucks. Are women jealous of our cars? Would they rather us be out with other women who actually kiss back? I told my soon to be wife, and she knows that my car and I have a special relationship. So far through the whole dating scene and being engaged she really hasn't said anything about me spending money on the cars, she just lets me know when I have spent too much time on it. Should I expect a huge change when we marry????

Craig

 

[gmjunkie]

Should I expect a huge change when we marry????

Craig

:duh :duh otfl junk!!

 

[AdvancedAutoCC]

I dont know what it is, but this whole spending time on the car versus with her thing sucks. Are women jealous of our cars? Would they rather us be out with other women who actually kiss back? I told my soon to be wife, and she knows that my car and I have a special relationship. So far through the whole dating scene and being engaged she really hasn't said anything about me spending money on the cars, she just lets me know when I have spent too much time on it. Should I expect a huge change when we marry????

Craig

It's called "having to grow up" as opposed to "playing house" when you're just living together. I can't put it any more bluntly than the cold hard truth. Saying that, marriage is VERY rewarding, but it's not a 50/50 deal. Both of you have to put in 100% and it's a lot of hard work. Most kids today don't "get it", as a previous poster commented.

Women have to understand that we men do love our cars, but OTOH we have the responsibility to carefully balance both our passion for our cars with the women that we hold dear. This isn't to say that you should let your woman run all over you, but don't go to the opposite extreme either. It all goes back to two words: hard work. I'm going on 15 years married this March and couldn't be happier... if it weren't for my wife, I'd have never opened my shop, gone racing, etc., etc. She knew what I loved to do before we got married and we had no problems, fights, etc. about those things. BUT.. when things were tight (as they do get from time to time), I put the car stuff on the back burner until things were better. Did it suck? Sure it did, but it wasn't permanent. Same thing applies to Shane's situation. I think some financial stability is a bit more important that some wheels for a 20 year old Corvette. When it's time, you can get what you really really want for your Vette, instead of settling for what's right there, right now. Look for what you want, plan for it, save for it, and when the time is right, get what you want!

end of rant

 

[Achilles]

Should I expect a huge change when we marry????

Craig

You can count on it! If you're getting a little grief now, it's not going to get any better after the rings are exchanged. I don't have this problem because my wife digs the cars anyway. But as far as other issues go, you'll find out that the things that bother her now really get under her skin. And other things too that she doesn't let you know about, will come around to bite you in the rear later on. Right now your habits and short falls are just little annnoyances that are flying below the radar because there's is no commitment. It's best to lay your cards on the table now and explain how things are. For both sides too. You both have to be willing to accept eachother for who you both really are so you don't have to sneak around issues or pretend to be someone you're not. Not trying to be negative. I've been happily married 14 years now. Be honest with eachother and decide if you can both accept eachother.

Ok, I'm getting teary! This soapbox is over, I've got to go find my power tools.

 

[87blackroxi]

Thanks everyone for the words on the subject. I do appreciate it.
We talked about it last night by taking a walk with the dogs. We Decided that I would put $600 out of my 2nd installment of my christmas bonus in savings and the rest I could spend on the car. Not a bad compromise considering what's left over I could buy 1 wheel :L . So I am going to wait until after we move in may.
She actually admitted she was alright with me buying the set, but without her getting paid right now it made her a little nervous. I don't get it. She flat out is adamantly saying no and now she admits she's ok with it. Women!
But I love her and respect her, and for that I will wait.

 

[vette-dude]

Thanks everyone for the words on the subject. I do appreciate it.
We talked about it last night by taking a walk with the dogs. We Decided that I would put $600 out of my 2nd installment of my christmas bonus in savings and the rest I could spend on the car. Not a bad compromise considering what's left over I could buy 1 wheel :L . So I am going to wait until after we move in may.
She actually admitted she was alright with me buying the set, but without her getting paid right now it made her a little nervous. I don't get it. She flat out is adamantly saying no and now she admits she's ok with it. Women!
But I love her and respect her, and for that I will wait.

You are to be commended for the proper way you handle this!!! Shows a lot of maturity as well as a real love for this women. You may now proceed to ask for her hand in marriage!!! (As if you needed permission, LOL!) Good luck and may the marriage Gods make their face to shine upon you.

Randy