Sorry. Matching engine RPM to the RPM required (blipping the throttle) in the newly selected gear takes any 'shock' loads off of the driveline components. Those loads are the ones that move your passengers' heads forward. Proper 'blipping' would see no heads move and any deceleration is accomplished using engine compression only. It is a simple technique, involving timing and knowledge of the car's shifting characteristics.
Just as brake parts wear by changing the mechanical force of the car into heat (and brake dust), that same energy can be channeled through the transmission and every component of the driveline by decelerating with downshifts and not brakes. Improper downshifts shift that energy from the brake system to the driveline, wearing away small amounts of material in the transmission clutches, gears, and every part rubbing another part, lubrication not withstanding.
Some stick shifters slip the clutch to slow the car, which is totally wrong. I remember a wise old hot rodder advising me that, "It is cheaper and easier to change brakes than clutches." (Aren't the cars built that way?) Downshifting an automatic in a similar manner is harder on the tranny than not, but it will likely not show up for some time.
Surely this happens every time shifts happen, but we control how severe the shift is and how often they occur, and pay for repairs accordingly.