Allow SO or spouse to drive your vette alone?

[2000vette]

Hello,

Do you allow your spouse or significant other to drive your vette alone?

I have been a Corvette lover since the age of 2. Really!!!!!! I owned a 93 that I had to share. When I became single, I purchased my current 2000 coupe. My current boyfriend helped me check the vehicle out. We live together and I contribute financially. I have let him drive the vette 3 times and I am in the car. I have been vocal about it being my car and he has his own Monte Carlo. He likes vettes but his taste is more for 78 Silver Anniversary. I have had somewhat heated discussions about not allowing him to drive my car alone. His family jokes repeatedly with me about not letting him drive by himself. Everyone wants to drive it. I enjoy driving the vette. Please give me feedback and what other owners do.

Denise

 

[MHORNE]

i say yes he should get to drive, in a relationship there is no yours/mine, it should be "ours" Damn, i sound like an old man huh, haha anyway if my wife wants to drive "our" toy, she can, though I would cringe, haha its just as much hers as it is mine. SO LET HIM DRIVE IT!!!

 

[2000vette]

He does not even know if he wants to marry me. HE knows he wants to drive the car though.

 

[2000vette]

MHORNE:
Cringe is not the word. More like freeze in a panic. Does she take it out on her own?

Denise

 

[MHORNE]

Ok if your not married, and he isnt sure, hell no, he doesnt even get to sit beind the wheel, if he marries you thats different. She has never taken out on her own, she could though.

 

[GS Diva]

Denise,

I had to chuckle over your post because my Corvette is my Corvette...my husband's Corvette is his Corvette. However, not only is my husband "allowed" to drive my '96 Grand Sport convertible, I'm "allowed" to drive his '02 Corvette convertible! Actually, other than our mechanic (who is a friend and owns 3 Corvettes), no one else drives either of ours.

Perhaps you have just acquired your 2000?? If so, maybe the novelty will wear off so you feel more secure about your "significant other" taking it once in awhile.

By the way, welcome to the Corvette Action Center!!

Elaine

 

[2000vette]

Elaine,

Have you each actually driven each others vette?

I have had it for 3 years. If we did get married, it is a matter of trust for me. His buddies all tell him to take it out with them. God knows what will happen especially if drinking and driving which I am totally against. He would probably take care of it but not how I do. Would he let his buddies drive it? I want to be the one to go fast and use it.

Denise

 

[MsSchroder]

Denise,

I think I understand the way you feel. I have a very big reluctance about letting anyone drive it without me in the car.

In general, the way it works with me is that it is my car, and it does not get driven by other family members without me present unless it is a special circumstance. Mr. S drove it to work for 3 days once when his truck was in the shop, and I didn't have a problem with that. However, if he asked to take it "out" for just a fun time, perhaps with his "buddies", I would have to be firm and say no. Luckily he doesn't do that kind of thing, and he understands and respects my feelings about it. It also helps that he feels the same way about his truck- he doesn't like for me to drive it unless there just isn't any other way.

I, too, would make a distinction between being married and not.

Tammy

 

[Dakota kid]

Wow this is crazy…If you want him to marry you, You need to be more trusting..
You not letting him drive your vette could be a sign that you mistrust him. and I bet he Is aware of that.



Mistrust breads more mistrust Lies and deception. If you don’t trust him Dump him at al cost. But if you’re just being selfish you need to examine your motives.
When I had mine I let my former G/F drive it, with the complete understanding that she take care of it, no smoking we where both smokers, No eating, No pop, water is fine

 

[ßill]

First off we’ve been married for 30 years, that said. We have his and her cars, mostly for identification. When we go somewhere together I usually drive no mater which car we take. As far as the ‘vette goes. I keep encouraging her to drive it. She doesn’t drive a stick shift and the ZR1 is a 6speed. I think she would rather drive her S500 anyway.
Denise, I think getting married would be a positive first step toward being allowed to drive the ‘vette. Privileges come with commitments!

 

[IH2LOSE]

OK this should ruffle some feathers here

As a man I would never hesitate to allow a women to drive my cars. I purchased a C5 vette for my wifes birthday and motherday present in may of 02. She drives it better and safer then me. We have a baby sitter and she has been with us since my kids were born.She just got married 2 week end ago and she has permision to use any of my cars while we are away on vacation. I have NO fear of allowing a women to drive my cars.

But as for alowing a man/male to drive my cars I am very carefull,Men just cant help themselfs from trying to push a car up to it limits just to see what it can do weather or not they have the exspereance to control it or not.

I just finished building a 62 tube frame car that has an automatic in it so the wife can drive it.Its taken her quite a bit to get used to,including spinning the car around 180 degrees in a sweeping turn because the trans shifts too hard, But I know she will never push this car past her comfort zone. Where as a man always will.

Denise not allowing her "S0" to drive her car alone has nothing to do with trust,or not building a good relationship.I think its smart.

I dont know him But I do know myself and any time I get in a fast car I have no control over myself I just have to see what the car can do.And the only way for me to do it is to bring the car to its edge.

So you cant get any more honest then this.I vote would be to just say NO.


PS I would not allow him to drive the car till you get married,A women gota save something for the wedding night

 

[Dakota kid]

OK this should ruffle some feathers here

As a man I would never hesitate to allow a women to drive my cars. I purchased a C5 vette for my wifes birthday and motherday present in may of 02. She drives it better and safer then me. We have a baby sitter and she has been with us since my kids were born.She just got married 2 week end ago and she has permision to use any of my cars while we are away on vacation. I have NO fear of allowing a women to drive my cars.

But as for alowing a man/male to drive my cars I am very carefull,Men just cant help themselfs from trying to push a car up to it limits just to see what it can do weather or not they have the exspereance to control it or not.

I just finished building a 62 tube frame car that has an automatic in it so the wife can drive it.Its taken her quite a bit to get used to,including spinning the car around 180 degrees in a sweeping turn because the trans shifts too hard, But I know she will never push this car past her comfort zone. Where as a man always will.

Denise not allowing her "S0" to drive her car alone has nothing to do with trust,or not building a good relationship.I think its smart.

I dont know him But I do know myself and any time I get in a fast car I have no control over myself I just have to see what the car can do.And the only way for me to do it is to bring the car to its edge.

So you cant get any more honest then this.I vote would be to just say NO.


PS I would not allow him to drive the car till you get married,A women gota save something for the wedding night

Driving the corvette should not be a test or a goal for marriage.

If you cant trust the person before marriage what makes you think you will trust them after….You bring up a good point about men pushing the performance envelope with cars. But I have known many women that are demons on wheels.

 

[IH2LOSE]

Driving the corvette should not be a test or a goal for marriage.

If you cant trust the person before marriage what makes you think you will trust them after….You bring up a good point about men pushing the performance envelope with cars. But I have known many women that are demons on wheels.

Luke as I have said its not about married trust, for sure if your married is going to have troubles over driving a vette its doomed to fail.

I just think its very sencable not to allow the guy to drive it.

Actually let me gather some facts on the guy.

how old is he
How many DWIS does he have
How many wrecked cars or bikes does he have to his name?
How many points does he have on his licence.

And then I will shair some insurance statistics that will show why its a wise choice NOT to allow a drive

 

[GS Diva]

Elaine,

Have you each actually driven each others vette?

I have had it for 3 years. If we did get married, it is a matter of trust for me. His buddies all tell him to take it out with them. God knows what will happen especially if drinking and driving which I am totally against. He would probably take care of it but not how I do. Would he let his buddies drive it? I want to be the one to go fast and use it.

Denise

We absolutely do drive each other's Corvette! We each prefer our own, though, so there's not too many times that I take his or he takes mine. Both are 6-speeds, but they're quite different from each other. I prefer mine...he prefers his.

I'm not sure I'd be too anxious to let your Honey take it out with the "boys", though . If he wants to drive it with you as the co-pilot, I would think that's ok. If you don't trust him or his friends, then maybe you should just hold off!

Elaine

 

[Dakota kid]

Actually let me gather some facts on the guy.

how old is he
How many DWIS does he have
How many wrecked cars or bikes does he have to his name?
How many points does he have on his licence.

And then I will shair some insurance statistics that will show why its a wise choice NOT to allow a drive

Good ponit what is his past driving habits

 

[MsSchroder]

And is he covered under your insurance?

 

[trkingdaddy]

I say NO,I don't let my lady friend drive mine.We talked about this.She understand.But if i was to marry her that would be different

 

[LT4man]

I say do not EVER let him drive the Vette. (Even after marriage)

That way, NOTHING will ever be blamed on him.

Works for me!

Save The Wave!

 

[RedVetteMan]

Denise,

Welcome to the CAC. You'll find this is a great site, for a lot of reasons.

My wife hasn't (yet) driven my vette, and I've had it more than 3 years. I have to admit though, that it is a hobby car (or more appropriately a "garage queen") and only gets driven on nice summer days (or nites). Both of us have daily drivers that we switch from time to time. I've offered to let her drive when we're out, but she's not all that interested.

Now, I have a 21-year old son, who has rattled quite a little bit about driving it...but that won't happen unless I'm in it with him! As for the boyfriend, my opinion is "no ringey-no drivey", and maybe not even afterwards.

Good luck.

Paul

 

[Dakota kid]

I have to disagree with most of you, No drive No Ring
To me that’s a lack of trust and you can not build a marriage on that.
I am not going to put a ring on a woman’s finger if she will not trust me with her car.
If she does not trust me with a car will she trust me when I am out with the guys on Friday Night or is she going to accuse me of having an affair with every women.
Now unless there is a good reason not to give him the keys to your corvette, like bad a driving recorded. If it’s an insurance issue make him pay part of the insurance to drive.
I would say what ever the cost increase was.
I have seen way to many friends get divorced Over this is mine, that is Yours. My money is mine and your money is yours type of attitude
A marriage is like a business partnership, would you go into business if you trust the other person?