Here is another test. This one will help you troubleshoot the relays. Also, use this diagram.
http://home.comcast.net/~chadwick.robert/HEADLIGHT-SCHEMATIC.pdf
First, just to make doubly sure that your controls are working do the following, otherwise skip to #10.
1.) There is a vaccuum line that leads to the relay(s), which comes from the firewall. (This is the hose that comes from the override switch.) Disconnect this hose from the relay(s). If you have both the override switch and the headlight switch 'off' then there will be vaccuum at this disconnected hose. (if the car was running)
2.) Pull the override switch, so that it commands the lights to open. Since you disconnected the signal hose (see above), this will not be what opens the lights. You pull the override switch just to prevent a vaccuum leak in the system. The lights are commanded to open, because the signal hose has been disconnected. (fail safe signal system)
3.) Start car and observe headlights. Rev up car a few times and notice possible changes in movements.
4.) If headlights popped up, then there is something wrong in the control circuit.
5.) Reconnect hoses. end of test.
10.) This test will help diagnose the vaccuum relays. Use the PDF diagram above to help out with the task.
11.) You will need some pieces of hose for this test. The size may vary. As you disconnect hoses, either mark them with tape, or gain a complete understanding of how the system operates as a whole. Either way makes reconnections a snap.
12.) Disconnect the appropriate hoses and remove a relay from the car. Locate relay on PDF diagram.
13.) With the relay 'on the shelf' you should be able to freely blow thru the ports marked 'C' and 'N.O.'. (Note: The ports are likely not labeled as such, but determine ports per diagram.) Now, cover up the 'N.O.' port and try to blow again. If you can still get air thru, then you have found a problem with the relay. I suppose that a tiny bit of flow may be permissable, but in theory it should be fairly airtight.
14.) Locate the port on the relay where the signal line connected. (the top line on the diagram) Suck in on this, then blow into it. You should be moving a small diaphram up and down inside the relay. You should not be able to freely suck or blow, but only enough to allow movements inside the relay. If you can freely blow into this port, then this is a problem relay.
15.) Since you were having fun with that signal port on step #14, let's do it again. (I'm assuming that it is functioning properly, otherwise this step is for nothing.) Suck on the signal port until you cannot suck anymore. This will change the position of the internal valving inside the relay. Now plug up the port without losing that vaccuum.
16.) Blow into the 'C' port and feel if it freely comes out of the 'N.C.' port. You should feel it. Now put your finger over the 'N.C.' port and blow into the 'C' port. If you can freely blow into it, then the relay is leaking internally and needs replacing.
17.) Replace relay and repeat for other relay.
Relay operation:
The relays always have vaccuum applied on the 'C' port. (with engine running) This vaccuum is channelled to either the 'N.C.' port or the 'N.O.' port. (normally closed or normally open) The signal vaccuum tells the relay to switch from using the 'N.O.' port to the 'N.C.' port. (That is why when the signal vaccuum is disconnected, the relays revert to using the 'N.O.' port)
Lastly, if you find the relay is bad, then why not open it up and see how it works. If you are careful, you might be able to repair it. However, it is likely to suffer from a cracked diaphram or dried out rubber internals.
I hope this helps you.
On a separate note, if you wanna try out the actuators, why not hook up your main vaccuum line (from the canister) directly to the 'open' port on the actuator. If you are not sure which port is which, then try them both.
Craig, let me know if this helps. The headlight system is really not as bad as it seems once you understand it, and there is not too many things left for you to check.