My lady presented me with a tempting deal! AHHH

[Scott Winebarger]

Tell Kenny thats one nice Jeep !

 

[John '85]

Thanks for the kind words.

And you do not deserve to judge people you don't know!
(read my post prior to this)

Wow, you know after reading this again, I was a bit harsh. My apologizes for judging you so severely.
Glad to hear you kept the Vette. Don’t let the gals try to control you.

John

 

[Evolution1980]

So, we had dinner tonight. We talked. I explained to her from the bottom from my heart how difficult it would be to part with the vette. Don't get me wrong, I would love the jeep. But after reading the posts today, seeing everyone's passion that I share, and taking the 30 minute drive home in the vette, I was open and honest about selling it.

Yep, yer a vette guy! Welcome!!!

Now the tough part. I will have to finance a winter car. But it does fall into good timing. When I move to missouri in May I will be able to drive the vette all summer long until bad weather is close, allowing me to save for the house and for a winter vehicle. The only stipulation is: We have to both agree on what my winter vehicle is. So I can accept that.

Good move! Actually, since the winters aren't full of snow there, getting a 'winter' car isn't nearly all that different than finding a regular daily driver! Get a car with a good heater and put some good all-seasons on it. Done!

I could tell overall she's ok with the decisions, but it bothered her a little still. And I really am happy she understood my love for the vette, even if it is just a little.

It seems like she's not used to compromise. But it's something you both are going to experience more now that you are married. It's all about compromise. And if only one party is doing it, that's not compromise. That's control. Glad to see that you two have worked out a compromise. (But using your money to pay of her debt?? That sucks...)

And I'd agree with the inlaw situation as stated above. Unless you and your father-in-law are "tiiiiight!", that gets to be sticky situation right quick! Especially with dad knowing that there's a guy with his little girl! You being a good guy or not! But hey, that's all on you now. Our concern is for your car first and foremost! :L :L Just kidding. I (and I'm sure we all do) wish you all the best of luck with you and the Mrs.

"May the best days of your past be the worst days of your future."

 

[davec0_17]

tempting offer?

First off, I'm amazed at amount of responses to this thread in such a short time. I've read them all. And I gotta say, if my girlfriend came home and said, 'hey honey, why dont you sell your Vette and we move in with my mom and dad in another state', I'd run. Fast and long. I'd be betting thats not the last time she asked. Wait, I would not run, I drive, fast and far, in my CORVETTE. Till they pry my cold dead fingers off. Next she will want you to sell those nasty guns. "What do you need those for." Sorry, i think it's just the beginning. Good luck!

 

[koolaid117]

Congrats on getting to keep Roxi!! For now anyway! Just wondering how the inlaws will take it? Are they Corvette supporters or not? By September it may be three against one for selling the vette. OUCH!! Seriously though, I hope it all works out. Being married is not easy, even when they are happy.

Jim

 

[sxyvet]

" VETTES ARE THE BEST,CHUCK OUT THE REST"

need i say more!

glen
sxyvet
Australia

 

[87blackroxi]

Cj5nuts, I'll be there in may. Who knows, when the time comes to find a winter beater, maybe you can help me find an old cj for a decent price.

John, sometimes we get caught up in the moment. Don't sweat it. No worries here. If you like vettes, you're ok with me.

Heidi, I don't know if she would ever go for a switch like that. I tried to take her suv to georgia next month for a hiking trip and leave her with the vette and it was a no go, even for the week. Maybe when we're old and grey she'll come around.

evolution, Thanks for the posts. it's a tough one. she's young and has always been a daddy's girl. Majority of the time she gets what she wants. But She is slowly realizing how a relationship works. it just will take time to get the compromise thing down between us.


Thanks all for the posts and the concerns. For now my vette is safe. I'll keep y'all updated when I make the move.

 

[Willis76]

It's so true, her controllong of you is just beginning - but as many of us have learned before you, love can lead to temporary blindness.

Don't worry - things will be clearer after you get your sight back, but I'm guessing that won't happen until you're at the outlaws for a few months.

Wake up, let her go to Mama - catch up with her later - if you want to....

 

[AdvancedAutoCC]

FYI

The latest statistics indicate that the number of marriages ending in divorce is now up to 70%... I like to refer to first marriages these days as a "starter marriage"... Meaning, most are doomed from the beginning, but you learn what to do and what NOT to do for the next one. My oldest son is finding this out the hard way.

For me..I'm on my second (and last), but we've been together for 17 great years with two of our own rugrats (we have 4 between us and previous marriages). My wife is most understanding of what I do (Vettes, Harleys, cigars, etc.), and at NO time did I have to jump through any hoops or the like. Yes..she's my soulmate. Funny thing about soulmates...you "just know" (very hard to put in words) when things are right... you don't have to do anything or explain. If you have to work at it, she ain't it!

Having to constantly please them, compromising who you are, etc. Those are signs of a high-maintenance woman, or one with a lot of issues. My friend, from what I've read over the last couple of years here, plus this latest demand..it looks to me like you're in for heartache. Maybe not now, but within a couple of years (been there and done that!). As to choosing between a car (yes, a Vette is just a car..a machine, just like a Jeep) and your woman, that's just a sign of a deeper control issue (listen to us old guys....we've been there!). Yes, there are other Vettes, Jeeps, etc. What the big picture seems to be is who you are (your sense of identity), and how it can be changed or manipulated (women try early on to see what they can do). As I said in my first post, you and you alone must make the decision, regardless of what a bunch of us guys here say. For some good advice, go to your family and ask them...If that causes friction, then I'd say that's a very large warning sign! Think long and hard...

For me, I wish you nothing but the best regardless, though.

 

[Achilles]

I see big trouble here.

Moving in with the inlaws, that is really big trouble! My daughter and son in law moved in with us for awhile. It is NOT a good thing to do for any length of time.. Have you ever visited there for a week ? You think there will be issues about the number of cars in the drive? How do you think they will feel when your living with them and have a new Jeep in the drive that you are paying for instead of your own place to live.

Keep the Vette! Don't move unless you have a place of your own. I realize that I don't know all the reasons for moving but everything I have seen you post looks like you have a very controlling girl there. What is apparent is she does this on the sly. You are on the edge of losing your self respect on this.
Whatever you do , KEEP THE VETTE! get a cheap used Jeep.

Rants by an old fart that has been there done that.

Glenn

I have to agree. If you buy a jeep and you move in with the in-laws, better just go find a bridge to jump off of. If you keep the Vette, better find a higher bridge to jump off. Looks to me, like you have everything working against your favor. My advice...do whatever feels right in your gut as far as selling or keeping the Vette. And you won't regret it. My other advice...Don't move in with the in-laws...That is a mistake you will always regret and your relationship with them will never be the same. Do whatever you have to at all costs to be your own man and take care of your woman.

 

[Gry Ghst]

Bend but never never never Break!!! Save the wave!!!

 

[Baldie88]

When you do get to St. Louis there are several Corvette clubs to join if you are interested: Route 66, The Original Corvette Club, Boone Trail and The St. Louis Corvette Club. Depending on where you are in St. Louis, one of these clubs should be fairly close to you. The NCCC meets here quarterly and I believe NCRS is having a show sometime in May or June. I belong to the St. Louis Corvette Club and we do something almost every weekend.

Good luck with the move and your relationships (Vette and significant other).

Drop me a pm if you need anything.

Ron
"Baldie88"

 

[87blackroxi]

Robert, chickenjerk, and baldie,
Thanks for the sentiments. It's a sticky situation. We are in actuality polar opposites. But I guess opposites attract. But we do have a good relationship (besides the vette). And have taught each other alot.

Moving in with her parents is for a couple reasons. first is she is very family oriented and wants to be with her family. she's the yougest of three with her brothers 7&8 years older than her. The main reason we decided on this was to save money to buy a house after 6 months. Her parents own a
6 bedroom house and are never home because they own/operate a restaurant. So we will not be around each other too much.

I am bracing for the change and expect it to be difficult to adjust to. I know it's not a great situation but I won't give up on her. I get along great with her family and her dad is actually a big fan of corvettes (although he never had the chance to own one). The issue was just havin 5 vehicles in the drive.

It will work. It will be challenging, but It will work.
Thanks for everyone's concern.

 

[KREX 725]

From a St. Louis prospective, I can tell you that snow is not that big of an issue in STL. In the three years I've owned "the Admiral," I've only driven in snow 3-4 times. It's never been so bad that I couldn't get around. It still sucks compared to a 4X4, but it's only a day or two per year maximum (of course next year we'll have a blizzard and you'll call me on this!).

STL also has some great vette driving locations. You can take the top off on a nice spring/summer/fall day and drive up the Great River Road across the river in Alton, IL or head down to the "wine country" hills south and west of STL and find some great high speed limits, very minimal traffic, and great curvy roads.

My gal is very similar about the vette, although I've lucked out that she's never asked me to get rid of it. She still rolls her eyes at me when I ramble on about new Magnaflow exhausts or ZR-1 wheels, but she's grown pretty accustomed to knowing the "Admiral" is part of the family. She even recommended a trip down to BGKY last week while she was on spring break (she's a teacher). How can I not love that????

I can't compare STL to Florida, but it's not the Siberia for sports cars others might lead you to believe.

Welcome!

 

[BruceBed]

I have to agree. If you buy a jeep and you move in with the in-laws, better just go find a bridge to jump off of. If you keep the Vette, better find a higher bridge to jump off. Looks to me, like you have everything working against your favor. My advice...do whatever feels right in your gut as far as selling or keeping the Vette. And you won't regret it. My other advice...Don't move in with the in-laws...That is a mistake you will always regret and your relationship with them will never be the same. Do whatever you have to at all costs to be your own man and take care of your woman.

The more I think about this guys situation the worse mojo I get. I think you are in for a world of trouble. Women always know how to set the lure. It's up to us to take the bait. Not only are you on the hook, but you will be filleted. I think I would run and let her stay with her parents. That's another receipe for disaster. Good luck.

 

[Pseudomind]

The two of you just may do alright, but I know if it was me, I could not do it. Might have something to do with my age, I have this philosophy of when I moved out I made my own living arrangements from then on. . I have been around some overbearing in-laws who I just wanted to smack the sh--- out of, but ended up biting my tongue, instead. In the end it did not matter as we ended up parting ways after 14 years, and to this day I believe if it had not been for the in-laws we would probably still be together. So Good luck, keep the Corvette.

I have found out since the parting that it is better to only compromise with just your partner and keep any in-law influences at bay.

My 40 % of a nickel

 

[CharlesBrown]

Don't sweat the emissions test in St. Louis County if that is where you'r going. Unless you'r really "somking" there should be no problem. Just brought in a C4 from Colorado that passed with flying colors. Regarding the snow and ice, it can be a problem. Normal is for rain followed by ice then layered with snow. Very few cars of any kind cad deal with it. The smart ones just stay home... or wait a few hours and it will melt. Regarding the sale of the Vett and getting an other, "better the devil you know."

 

[78SilvAnniv]

The issue was just havin 5 vehicles in the drive.

Let me see, 1, 2, 3, 4 people and 5 cars? ONLY five?! With FOUR people living in the house? That is a VERY conservative number of vehicles for that number of drivers.
Heidi

 

[KREX 725]

Don't sweat the emissions test in St. Louis County if that is where you'r going. Unless you'r really "somking" there should be no problem. Just brought in a C4 from Colorado that passed with flying colors.

I'd be more worried about the people they have working at the emissions place who can't wait to get your vette onto their rollers and hit the gas. The last girl had the nerve to turn on my stereo and change the station while she sat in there for the whole two minutes. Supposedly there are considerations going on to eliminate the emissions testing program, but I wouldn't hold your breath (no pun intended).

 

[87blackroxi]

Emmisions are a bit of a concern. It smokes a little on start up. Slightly white smoke. But it clears in secondes and after running it runs with any smoke at all.
I've also heard there are a few tricks to get it through too.