The 88 does not have any relays. IT has a switch, a module, and the two headlight motors (or actuators as they should be called).
If your problem is noise, then you may want to take off your actuators and lubricate the main gears.
The control module is in the left front fender well in front of the left front tire. It is about 4.5" x 4.5" with two sets of wire plugs going in and out of it. All it does is reverse signals for the lights to go up or down. It won't make them noisy.
If th actuators are trying to run on after you turn the lights on or off, (making a clicking/grinding noise)...then they stop after a few seconds...you have bad bushings in the motors. You can order a new set from mid america for about $5.
Otherwise, I need you to be more specific about your problem so I can point you in the right direction.