Since my last post on this, my wife has taken the DSOM as her daily driver doubling to tripling the miles driven each day. The streets downtown are much rougher than the roads I drive to work also. A month or so ago, she got the message for the first time. After seeing it a couple more times, intermitantly over a couple of weeks, we took it to the shop. The technician said it didn't have any stored codes but they repositioned the wiring harness in the steering wheel. The car drove fine for 2 weeks then last Tuesday, she got the message again. Wednesday, it came on on the way home and she made me come out and look at it. 15 minutes later, she went back out and the message came right back after starting. On Thursday, coming home, it the message was off and everything was working right. Then she made a left turn and the car laid down on her as she was crossing traffic. Not nice with traffic coming. She noticed the active handling engaged message just a moment before it gave her power back and switched to the "Service active handling..." message. That scared her and she say she was not driving the car again until it was checked again.
Friday morning, I was going to drive the car to work. I got one house down the street from my driveway and got the "Service active handling..." message. I drove it straight to the dealer and showed the service writer the message and even talked to the service manager about it. That's where it is now. I hope that whatever is broke is 'hard broke' and they can find it.