I don't care for Corsa or Borla (flame suit on), but they may be the ticket for you and your needs. The Corsa systems that I have heard lack bite at an idle (sound very similar to the stock system) and really only open up under a good amount of throttle. At cruise they are very quiet, and I don't care for that. I can say the same for the Borla systems that I have heard. It sounds like these qualities are what you are after, though.
I went with a chambered exhaust system and could not be happier. :J The chambered system has a nice throaty idle and an all around mean, but controlled note. It's fantastic, but based on your concerns I don't think that you would like it.
As far as replacement mufflers only, I have only heard Flowmasters (don't know the series) and they sounded very good (deep, throaty tone), but again, probably too much for you under acceleration and at cruise.
Have you considered a Corsa or Borla cat-back exhaust?